I have been followin the BlogDrama this weekend, and I have tis to say: What a bunch of bitches. Anyone who fanned that flame deserves complete ostracism. The whiners who are whining "But it was private....no one was supposed to see it!" can go to hell. And the person who pulled this crap in the first place can ABSOLUTELY go to hell.
Here's the thing: I agree with some of the comments, probably (I couldn't get to the truly bitchy site). I am sure I have thought some of the mean things people have said. There are bloggers I used to love and I can't read any more.
But what purpose does it serve to say these things out loud? What is wrong with you that you can't, at worst, email about it off-blog with a like-minded blog friend? So you did this to get things off your chest? WHY do you need to? I just don't get how it serves anyone, much less the greater good, to tell someone they are boring, or ugly, or much less good-looking than their husband. Or to say it about them behing their backs. I learned a lonng time ag to not say anthing about anyone because it WILL get back to them, and they'll be hurt 10,000 times worse by hearing "Amy said your haircut is stupid" than if I just said to them "I don't think that cut flatters you well." When I started becoming part of online communities, I made a point to always say what I need to and own up. A TTC Board I was a part of got bombarded regularly by anonymous posters, and because I was a frequent contributor and had been around for a long time, I was one of the more favored targets. I said then that if you aren't willig to come out and say something, why do you feel the need to say it hiding behind a masked identity? This is 100 times worse.
The last time I let another blogger piss me off, I said so on her blog and wrote a post about the whole issue, not her personally. I didn't link to her blog or call her out because a)I like this person and b) it wasn't about HER, it was about the way I react to something of which her post was a strong example (the way I read it, which more than a few people told me was off the mark). And still, I felt I overreacted and wouldn't do the same thing again. If you hate someone's blog, STOP READING. Posting bitchy little comments about it serves no one and makes you look like the biggest asshole on the planet. Do these people think they are in any way being constructive? Or helpful? Or even funny? No, they are being btiches. And not the good kind. And the whiny excuses of those who've been called out make me furious.